Judy Rodman - All Things Vocal Blog: March 2021

Training & insights for stage and studio singers, speakers, vocal coaches and producers from professional vocal coach and author of "Power, Path & Performance" vocal training method. Download All Things Vocal podcast on your fav app!

Tuesday, March 9, 2021

Interview With Briana Domenica - Singer/Speaker/Warrior

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My guest today is Briana Domenica, who came from a family trauma of triple suicide, moved into her own serious depression and self-sabotaging actions, and finally had a paradigm shift of faith and music that led her not only to her own joy and healing, but also to a music and speaking career that may literally save some of the lives in her audience. In this interview, we talk about her creative journey, and her 'why'. I hope it inspires your own as it does mine.

About Briana:

Born in Massachusetts and raised in South Florida, Briana Domenica is a classically trained singer that found her calling in non-classical, contemporary Christian music. To find her voice in that genre, I’m honored to say became my student. A performer from a young age, Briana has sung at Carnegie Hall, in Disney’s Epcot Candlelight Processional, and toured internationally for the Make a Wish Foundation. But Briana has experienced heartbreak and tragedy, too. She was badly bullied in high school and lost three family members to suicide, and after some very serious bouts of depression herself, she decided she was going to take all that horrible experience and with God’s help, make a difference. So she started her own non-profit, ‘Angel In The Sky’, to raise awareness and save lives through suicide prevention, education and the power of music. She started writing and recording and eventually relocated to Nashville, where she has a team that is helping her turn her dreams into reality. Her new album 'Warrior In Me' was released last September, and she's planning on a unique presentation tour for it this year. 

Links:

Website... https://www.brianadomenica.com
Book her... info@brianadomenica.com
Facebook... https://www.facebook.com/BrianaDomenicaMusic
Instagram... brianadomenicamusic

Here's her sizzle reel, where she talks about her mission and shares snippets of songs and speeches...

Here's the video to her powerful song 'Warrior in Me'


What about YOUR voice?

If you need vocal help transitioning from classical to contemporary music, would like to improve your speaking voice, or have any other vocal matter, I'd love to work with you. You can read more about my lessons and contact me at my website.

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Wednesday, March 3, 2021

Child Stars: Are We Mentoring Heroes or Narcissists? [Updated 2021]


 

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It takes a wise village of parents, extended family, teachers, directors, counselors, and others to grow a young artist into their full potential. I believe this 'village' should not only develop talent but also mentor the child's maturation into a hero: a person who will make the world a better place. Because that's how that child ends up with a truly prosperous and fulfilling journey. Let's start by talking about...

CHILD STARS IN TROUBLE 

There is a 2013 NPR program in which "Matilda" star Mara Wilson talked about why child stars go crazy. The program aired a couple of months before former Disney star Miley Cyrus's shock value performance on the VMA's. Daniel Radcliffe (Harry Potter) has spoken publically about his heavy drinking to deal with fame. Sophie Turner (Sensa Stark in Game of Thrones) was so criticized about her personal appearance and acting ability by internet trolls,  she considered suicide.

There are reams of tabloid stories of young stars who developed drug and alcohol addictions and other self-sabotaging behaviours such as Lindsay Lohan, Demi Lovato, and Drew Barrymore. Those tabloids make a lot of money on child stars gone bad in public. Hear Justin Bieber voice the pain he experienced from childhood 'success' in his 2020 lament 'Lonely'

Besides all the in-person worship, just social media fame can be dangerous. Here's a quote in a great article from Insider magazine:
Adapting to life in the spotlight is hard enough for grownups. For young influencers, that is compounded with incessant social media attention.

4 QUESTIONS I WANT TO RAISE:

  • Does the successful acquisition of fame and/or money justify the isolation and emptiness that sabotages a child's life? 
  • Does his/her musical artistry illuminate the darkness, somehow moving it to the light, in some way making the world better, or does it magnify dysfunction and negativity of all kinds, attracting young fans into those voids?
  • Does the famous child have a sense of human connection, self-worth and purpose or is that child vulnerable to addictions, eating disorders, depression, and an inability to live without being the center of the spotlight?  
  • What template defines a successful life as a human being... that of hero or narcissist? Because the answer will determine the kind of mentoring the child should have.
No matter how gifted or smart they are, children are not little adults... physically, mentally, emotionally. We who are their mentors need to educate ourselves in child development, and we need to get real about our own true motivations that may be self-serving. A self-driven child who loves participating in performance arts will absolutely need support as they reach for their goals from loving adults who care, but we should be very careful to draw the line between supporting what the child can become and what we all recognize as 'stage parenting'. Direction and control must always for the child's well-being, not for primarily parental or instructor aspirations.  Yes, we all win when they win, but we need to keep in mind how they really win.

CREATIVE CHILD ISSUES AND HOW THE VILLAGE CAN HELP:

  • The issue: Self-absorption.
A child is by nature self-absorbed. It's not evil... it's natural... part of human child development.   
  • What the village can do: 
Young natural self-centeredness must be tempered by developing empathy with others. For instance, we can help mold a child's thought processes at talent contests. While doing their best to claim whatever prize, the child can be encouraged to care about and befriend other contestants, and to even redefine how to truly 'win' a contest.  And when they do attain some influence,  we can encourage the child to use it for the good in some way. For instance, TikTok stars Charli and Dixie D'Amelio did a UNICEF video about anti-bullying. American teenager Feroza Aziz, famous for makeup tutorials, calls out China's inhumane treatment of the Uighurs right on her TikTok videos.
  • The issue:  Self-doubt.
If given a chance for self-expression, ALL children are creative! But for many different reasons, a child can come to believe they are not very good at things, unworthy, different. Especially creative children can feel like fish-out-of-water, are often introverts and have trouble forming friendships and feeling accepted. 
  • What the village can do:  
First of all, encourage every child to express themselves creatively. It is vital to human growth and wellness that they do this, no matter what their natural giftings are or are not. Secondly, very creative children may need different environments in which to learn. Encourage them to be their unique selves;  what is different about them can be their power to make a difference in the world! Investigate options for where they could to school, and what extra-curricular activities might put them in with kids who also don't fit the usual boxes. Give them places to fit in, and make sure they know they are deeply loved just as they are.
  • The issue: Rebellion.
As part of the human maturation process, children become teens and push their boundaries to become more independent. When they push too hard, we call this rebellion. Three big problems of the child star are 
    • that their rebellion or 'acting out' is on full view in public (and on social media, usually!) 
    • that some in the village are making big bucks on the child or teen's careers and news stories. 
    • the child can come to believe they're too valuable to have to be accountable to anyone
  • What the village can do:
A rebellious young person sometimes needs the opposite of 'friendship' from the village... they need to be held accountable by loving adults who are willing to speak truth and apply tough-love. If that doesn't work, get the child/teen professional counseling. If that distances the kid for a while, or even a few years, do it anyway for long-run success. All children - even uber-smart-creative ones - need safe boundaries to push against. BUT THAT SAID, be careful not to draw the child's boundaries too tightly. Many times, creative children are gifted differently, have personalities difficult for you to relate to and need the freedom to express themselves and reach for other goals and careers than you may want for them. Ask yourself, are you drawing their boundaries for THEIR protection or for YOUR need to control? Keep them safe, but encourage them towards their own uniqueness, independence and ultimate inter-dependence of adulthood. Gradually open up their boundaries and let them fly!
  • The issue: Fame/Failure.
Fame is a dangerous blessing, especially when it comes early. Without staying close to a small trustable circle of accountability to whom an artist will listen, there is danger that phenomenal success and fan worship status can lead them into adult narcissism, personal emptiness and artistic uselessness. Loretta Lynn once said 'you're in trouble when you start believing your own press'. In this artist-worshiping culture, a talented young person is often lifted up to great heights, and then dropped like a sack of unwanted garbage for no logical reason. Tabloids sell the perverse pleasure of watching the fall... and witnessing the train-wreck spectacle the young person becomes.
  • What the village can do:
Failure can teach a growing soul the most important things -often better than success can. But a young person needs to be taught how to gracefully and safely fail. We can be the safety net... with the message that a person's worth is not in what they 'do' but in who they  'are'. They need to know that when they 'act out', they will be held accountable with correction and discipline, but also that without a doubt they are unconditionally loved by their close village. I would suggest that even with some bullying, failures, mistakes and public derision, young Taylor Swift and her village have turned her into a hero - a positive young role model - for her demographics. May she stay safe from her own success.
  • The issue: Exploitation.
 Children are easy prey. They cannot be expected to have the skills to protect themselves financially, sexually, emotionally. Especially with 'perfectionist' children who want to please, there is terrible opportunity for exploitation of the young in the performance arts.
  • What the village can do:
We must watch over and train our charges. We must talk among ourselves, reporting any abuse we think we see, no matter what it might cost the child's career. A beautiful photoshoot is one thing, but when a child's album cover approaches soft porn, why are we surprised at the kind of 'attention' it elicits?
  • The issue: Overprotection.
Truly gifted and self-driven children NEED to be able to express themselves creatively. Overprotecting and overcontrolling them can hurt their development and trying to discourage them from following their dreams and their heart and their callings can cause depression and dangerous self-sabotaging behaviors to set in. 
  • What the village can do:  
Listen deeply and observe the child. What do they really need to be able to do to fully develop into the person they were born to be? Nurture their gifts; teach them how to persist and practice for something they've chosen to do or audition for (always watching your own motivations). Help them balance their responsibilities, study and aspirations with playtime, daydream-time and laughter. Remember that even if they DO become doctors, lawyers or CEOs, they still need to create in the giftings they have to be fulfilled and happy in life. Music does all kinds of things for the mind and spirit. The arts are not 'extra' .. they are of primary importance to humanity, and definitely to our young humans. 

CHILD STARS WHO MADE IT

All the issues I've mentioned are waiting like time bombs for our children. But some have definitely made it. And some young stars have incredibly deep wisdom. Leonardo DiCaprio, Selena Gomez, Justin Timberlake have managed to come into adulthood fine. I can think of several others right now in their teens and 20's who are already influencing the world for the better. 

But some never do learn to have healthy relationships, be unafraid to fail, be capable of empathy and altruistic concern for others. At the core, they are often motivated by fear. And no matter how much fame they have, it's never enough. In the end, that's not a life I'd wish on anyone. 

So let us protect these precious budding humans, and help them grow into what they are truly born to be... healers, poets, public speakers, music artists, inspirers, world changers... yes, Heroes!  

JOIN THE CONVERSATION

Do you have a child that has had trouble with any of these issues? If you were a child who performed publically, what helped or hurt you? How do you think we can help mentor heroes instead of narcissists? Hit 'comment' and give us your thoughts!

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